Deena Blumenfeld with Maryam Hall

Find Deena Blumenfeld’s display at Fernando’s Café, 963 Liberty Avenue.

“Do you mourn what you used to do, or do you decide that I am now actually a different person because I’m a parent?”

A friend just had a baby, and her transition to motherhood wasn’t quite what she thought it would be. She got home and realized how much time and work babies actually take. Babies need to eat around the clock and she felt resentful. She doesn’t feel like she has a life anymore. She can’t go grocery shopping or go out with friends when she feels like it. She wasn’t fully prepared for that life shift that comes with having a newborn, so she came for support with postpartum depression because she was not even feeling able to feed her child. I own Shining Light Prenatal Education in Millvale. It’s exciting to be able to support mothers and families through education and doula support.

A lot of mothers have similar experiences. They’re in “mommy mode” only, even working moms. Do you mourn what you used to do, or do you decide that I am now actually a different person because I’m a parent? We give up some things because it’s just not a part of who we are anymore, and then there’s other things we add in because it is a new part of being a parent.

Women give birth, they’re in the hospital and then they go home. That’s it. Nobody takes time to see how they’re doing physically, so we have a very high maternal mortality rate in the United States. Nobody sees how they’re doing emotionally. Friends and family don’t always know where to seek out resources. We do a bad job of taking care of our mothers in the immediate postpartum period and I want to change that.

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