Ciera James

“I was struggling with what it meant for me to be a friend. I learned that love is a choice.”

A year and a half ago, I was going through a lot of changes in friendships. I had friends who weren’t connecting as well. Other friends started dating people and our dynamic changed. I struggled with what it meant for me to be a friend. Then, over the summer I did a summer leadership training program in upstate New York. It was really hard because the goal of this program is to build community and grow together spiritually. I feared building community because I had been hurt in friendships and I had hurt others.

Throughout the summer, as much as I was fighting off friendships because I was fearful of what they could look like, I grew a lot in learning what friendship meant. I was struggling with what it meant for me to be a friend and I learned that love is a choice. It is a commitment to care for someone and to let other people care for you, as well. I grew bold in reaching out and not being afraid of the consequences. It was more important to me to care about those other people.

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