Find Christine Hoffman’s display at Weiner World, 626 Smithfield Street.
“I don’t particularly miss being married to him, but I miss marriage itself. I always saw myself as the person who would be celebrating their 60th wedding anniversary.”
My divorce happened 20 years ago and I had four children. After 17 years of marriage, it was your classic having-an-affair kind of thing. I did what I could to make it work because our marriage was really important to me. Marriage is a commitment – a promise that is strong and meaningful. I did what I could to work through it. Unfortunately, you need to have somebody else equally, which I did not have. That’s the way it ended.
People who suffer divorce need somebody to listen and share their own experiences. It’s really helpful to know, “You went through this same thing and you’re further on and doing well.” It helped for me to have a previously divorced pastor to talk to because he had been through that himself.
Dealing with single parenthood and trying to be a good parent who doesn’t bad mouth the other parent? And the whole Mom’s house/Dad’s house thing? So much change. I found out that life goes on and you can still be happy after it’s over. I don’t particularly miss being married to him, but I miss marriage itself. I always saw myself as the person who would be celebrating their 60th wedding anniversary.
I miss companionship, I miss being a partner, and I miss having somebody to talk to, cuddle with, and all that good stuff. But I also gained things from the experience that are really positive. I found out that I’m a strong, independent woman. I found out that it’s good to make your own decisions.